How to Believe in YOU

Where does the certainty come from?

I dont think it's from anywhere apart from deciding to be certain.

I always remember a colleague of mine, he's funny, smart, sophisticated. One day, he was wearing this new sweatshirt and I said I like your shirt.

He said,'babe I just know this is the best shirt you see today. This is the best shirt in any room i go into.'

Even though he was being playful, but he meant it, and i thought, what actually makes that shirt cool is that He has so much certainty on it. That makes it work!!

It's a shirt that any guy can get from Zara but he makes it work!

Imagine what if we have that in ourselves?!

We could crudely divide people into 2 different groups

1: people who intrinsically derive value, who believe the value in themselves

2: and the people who look for the value outside of themselves

and i see everywhere people look for value outside of themselves, with ME included.

In dating especially, Of course :) Me

people are looking at those beautiful people over there, that successful person over there,and they are thinking,'God, i wish i could get a person like that,that would be perfect for me!'

'Being around that person ...'

It's almost like It would rub off on me, or people would look at that person and see me next to them and think 'Wow, that girl's worth something as well.'

The scary part about that is even if i get to be with the perfect person, when i lose them i panic because my value leaves with them, but this is Wrong. It's actually the other way around.

It's the story that we tell others about our value, that changes their perceptions about us. But in order to tell them our stories, we need to believe in the Stories ourselves.

I've never have enough confidence in believing myself, part of it is because of the modesty of my parents, we are not good at taking compliments. Therefore growing up, I was taught that whenever people compliment me, just say thank you but Don't believe in it, because they were being nice.

But now, i find it silly because that was affecting how i see myself over so many years. Of course, can't blame on my mum, she's taught me what she thinks is right at that stage of life.

Tell a different story about your value, with a different level of uncertainty, and the world will change around you!!!